Here are 3 Steps to help you move out of your anger and into your abundance with clarity and peace of mind.
Anger and resentment do not resonate well with abundance and prosperity. If your in pursuit of abundance, you need to put away your anger and plug into your abundance.
In this video, I briefly describe a 3-step process that I use to move myself out of anger, and into my abundance. I found that I needed such a process when I am confronted with hurtful, awful, horrible injustices that insight my anger, and make me forget my capacity for compassion and forgiveness.
This 3-step process was particularly useful to me during Black History Month, because history in the U.S. for people of Black African descent is not always pleasant or uplifting, when remembered. Sometimes, the memory stimulates real pain, heartbreak, and yes – rage. The kind of anger and rage that these memories can stir up are particularly damaging, because there is no one in the present moment, toward whom that anger can be directed, and so it ends up settling inside of the one experiencing the memory.
This is a distinctly disempowering event. I had to find some way to address this situation. These are the steps I take for myself to move out of anger, to manifest abundance – which requires that I operate on a much higher plane than all of that rage, anger and angst. Here are my three steps:
Step 1: Recognize that Anger Reflects an Attachment
Anger is always an acknowledgement that I have attached myself to some particular outcome, and that the anticipated or expected outcome is not coming into being. My anger (or rage – depending on HOW attached I am) then surfaces as an expression of my disappointment and sorrow that what I wanted to happen, did not happen.
When I can stop, and take a LOOK at this disappointment, I can then see that the anger is typically associated with:
a) Wanting to be right
b) Surrendering to be a victim
c) Needing to be in “control”
When I acknowledge whichever one, or combination of feelings, that are actually true for me, I can regain a sense of power over my own affairs. And then I’m ready for the next step!
Step 2: Choose to Let Go of the Attachment
This may be easier said than done. However it may help to keep in mind something that my colleague, and Coach Extraordinaire, Margaret Pazant likes to say: “Holding onto anger is like drinking the poison and expecting the other person to die!” So … rather than stay in ‘self-destruct’ mode, it might be a better CHOICE to let GO of the attachment.
Step 3: Get Flat with the source of the upset
Once you have made a choice to let go the attachment that had you to experience anger, rage or upset, you then need to GET FLAT – meaning, getting yourself into a position where you no longer FEEL the anger. Ideally, you’ll want to come to a place of forgiveness. However, that may be too much to ask of yourself – initially – depending on the extent of the pain or damage that you’ve felt. So prior to forgiveness, consciously move yourself to the point where you can observe the source of the anger, but without FEELING the anger. This is what is meant by getting FLAT. You may not yet be ready to embrace the offending character, but you may be able to look at the offender, without feeling offended.
So … ! I hope these tips have been useful for you in some way! If what I’ve shared has been helpful, please do leave me some feedback!
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